"Who am I ? ". Nope I am not talking about Jackie Chan movie or a Unix command. Its the question that many kids ask when they grow up. When we were born we are born with only one identity . An identity that defines you as a boy or as a girl. But when we grow up , the society , the family gives you an identity. You are a Tamil Iyengar,You are a Malayali christian, You are a Gujarati Muslim etc.,
People then grow up with their own identity until they reach the school/college. Their friends , their passion slowly changes their identity. But their base identity is there which is hidden inside.They mingle with people and get to know about other culture, other religion. Its very good to know all about others. But when it comes to marriage one has to be choosy.
But when it comes to marriage one has to be choosy. Marriage is not the end of bachelorhood. Its the beginning of new life for you and your partner. You are becoming more responsible. You are licensed to produce your next generation. You marry someone from your own religion you inculcate your identity to the new-born. He will grow up with a defined identity. But when you marry someone out of your own religion then your child will fall into a huge crisis when he/she grows up.
That's what we call "Identity Crisis". The child grow up and marry someone who belongs to a different religion/region/culture your child is going to inculcate "identity crisis" to your grand children. What will happen to five generations down the line. There will be no religion,region, culture .
You may tell its good , there won't be any religion,region,caste,culture based fight. Its fantastic. The world will be peaceful. Everyone is neutral.
But its pretty bad in other sense. You have destroyed one religion. you have destroyed one culture. The Generation next will have no idea about your culture, your religion. "Who am I ?" will be a FAQ.
PS: Its purely my opinion and I am not against inter-caste, inter-regional marriages.No personal experience is reflected over here.
8 comments:
So you want people to marry only among the same religion only??or should it be among same caste only?? ;)
CVR, Same caste would be better ;)
But,I am not forcing people to marry in the same caste/religion. Its purely a thought :)
Mani.. a very good and sensible post.
Actually, Its nice to speak about inter-caste marriage and all.. But practically it has got n number of problems with it as u have said.
Good or bad, but we need to gulp the fact that religion and caste is deeply embedded in our blood. We cannot run away from it.. afterall we have to live in harmony with our society
Leave inter-religion, if we say to our parents that I want to marry a non-brahmin gal.. see their reactions ;-)
I don't mind being in identity crisis if it solves half of the nations problem. Tell me who created culture, religion ? is it god ? no right ! Itz all created by man.. For his own security man defined many things like religion, language, caste etc. which causes all the problems in the world.. If being in identity crisis will solve them i don't mind. Look at china they don't have any such religion and all. R they in identity crisis ? i don't think...
@Ashwath,
Completly agree with you, "Religion" is deeply embedded in our blood. We can act secular outside , but when it comes to a sensitive issue , we always back our religion.
By marrying a non-brahmin girl we still can maintain brahmin tradition by teaching the girl brahminical culture.
@Hari,
you are right in one way , That's what I have posted in my blog that it will solve most of the religious problem in our country. But what will happen to our culture, our festival. No one will celebrate Diwali, no one will celebrate Id/Christmas.
In China there is no identity crisis because everyone is identical :)
Culture is something which updates every 5 yrs in every caste. So you can't be sure ur kids will be following everything a part of ur tradition that you do now.Celebrating festivals is fine unless it is identified by religion - caste . I'm dead sure i wudn't be following all the traditions my parents follows. I'll be happy if my kids does the same and treating the mankind similar.
Hari,
Whatever you have said is 100% true. Even within one generation the find of following for a tradition goes down, Diwali you and me used to celebrate 10 years ago is no longer there. Nowadays it has become very dull affair. Imagine 10 years from now when our children celebrate Diwali,it will be all virtual.
Thats the impact of modernization.
Coming to your point of treating mankind equal, I completely agree everyone should be treated equally. That doesn't mean not following our tradition/religion/caste.
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